Bad Decisions…are they even a thing?
I have made mistakes. A lot of them. One of the first lessons my dad taught me was to fail fast. Make the mistake, learn from it and move on. This is one of the best personal and professional lessons I have carried with me.
Over the past year I have learned a lot about myself due to my health and the intense lifestyle change. There is a beautiful and raw internal process when you are stripped from your values. This past year of being sick and focusing on my health I realized wellness begins in the heart. Health resides in the depths of the soul. I knew if I could not clear the emotional clutter, relationships scars and regrets I did not stand a chance of healing.
This has been an incredible journey of getting in touch with who the real me is, what I love about myself, what I want and what I need. My values have provided me an internal compass for both big decisions and everyday small choices. I consider these to be what I live by and why I navigate certain situations in the manner I do. My values are embedded in who I am and who I consider myself to be in this universe…
I am a wellness enthusiast.
I am passionate about health.
I love to move. I crave education.
I love love.
Coaching is my talent
I desire true connection.
I value honesty.
I want realness in everything and everyone.
So why the topic of bad decisions…well, in my healing process I relived experiences I buried deep for decades, years and even recent months. There was one common theme as I reminisced about my past experiences (the ones that shook me to the core)…I was operating outside of my values. I put others’ needs before me. I rolled over so others would feel comfortable. I neglected the fact I was cheating on my own soul by giving a situation or someone else my power.
I am a strong, independent and compassionate woman. I am both ambitious and generous. I am private as much as I am transparent. I believe we can all learn from each other. We all have something to offer this universe. Sharing our experiences is what makes us human. It creates conversation and connection.
A few years ago I used to blog all the time, I would air my dirty laundry. Mostly about my poor choice in men and all the subject related bull shit. But in the past few years of being single (happily single), I realized there was so much more growing to be done. The only way to do this was to date myself. I needed to put me, my identity, my values and my vision for myself first.
Life is happening. Now. Whether you feel it or not. Your days are a blessing. This is all real. There is no far away space for situations, conversations or realities you don’t want to face. Your soul knows exactly what it wants and your actions are a direct reflection of this.
Magic bubbles to the surface when you move freely, share openly and engage truthfully.
So, I share with you my thoughts on bad decisions…there are none. If you can define clearly what your values are and live through these there is no chance you will made a bad decision. All I would suggest is: you are connected to these values, you believe in them wholeheartedly, you feel them as if they are inside of your body, you ARE your values. Once you step away from these, well, as I mentioned before, you can lose your power, allow other people’s agendas run your world and two years later you wake up and think to yourself, “what the fuck, who am I, what am I doing and how did I get here?” Take it from me…having been there…that moment is a bitch.